Things That Make Up Military Relationship

Military relationships are great. I as you can probably tell think it’s beautiful.

However, there are lots of PROS and CONS, but I do feel all of the things that make up military relationships are worth it.

Here are some of the PROS and CONS

The PROS

Appreciation of love

Appreciation of love is one of the beautiful PROS we have.

When you’re in a military relationship, there’s never a dull moment. You’ll get the real definition of what love really looks like unlike in most civilian relationships.

You’ll have lots of heartwarming homecomings and would want to spend all the time in the world together before they leave again.

The one thing I absolutely love is the beautiful moments of excitement, constant affection and appreciation of time together.

Faith in God

This is a huge PRO.

Having faith in God is something anyone can do. However, I do feel my faith in God has grown a lot since I became a military spouse.

This is because I have to trust each place God takes us. And……, I have to trust God in so many areas of this unstable lifestyle

Seriously, trusting and depending on God has helped me in so many different ways.

Opportunity to travel and see the world

Apart from traveling locally to different parts of Nigeria, being in a military relationship before and even after we got married has afforded me lots of opportunities to travel to so many countries. And, that’s one thing I absolutely love!.

Because this has opened my eyes to new people and ways of life. Such experiences and exposure can never be quantified in cash!.

Also, it has had a lot of positive impact on our children as they too have been exposed to different cultures which makes them easily relate with people from different places.

This is due to the fact that they have traveled wide and mingled with different types of people.

And, that’s why it beats my imagination when some soldiers see such opportunities as a means of getting far away from the family in order to have alone time.

Yes, it happens!

For some military families, being deployed to a new place is one thing. And, on the other hand, taking the decision on whether the family should all relocate and live together….. is another ball game.

But, I believe if the situation permits, the family should move together as a unit. As from my personal experiences, IT’S WORTH IT.

Maturity

Babes,

If you want to be on a fast track of maturity…Be in a military relationship.

When you’re a military spouse, you”ll pretty much mature quickly…..YOU HAVE TO!

Though it’s really not a big deal if you don’t mature quickly, but for me, I like being so mature for my age. This is because people seldom take you seriously when you’re too young and act immaturely.

The CONS

Separation and the impact on the Children

When you’re in a military relationship, there’s a possibility that you’ll have to leave your family and friends thousands of miles away.

Your significant other is also gone a lot due to deployments. The role of the soldier who may be the mom or dad is often missed in the upbringing of the children.

This is so because the parent at home, most times is overwhelmed by chores and anxiety. Oftentimes, the spouse has to struggle to create a balance between anxiety, the home, and meeting up with assigned responsibilities at the place of work.

I, for one, have experienced loneliness to the MAX but I also experience love to the MAX.