My Story

Three years as an army girlfriend, sixteen years (…and still counting) as a super cute army wife…YEAH… It’s been exciting, adventurous, and interesting.

Where do I begin?

I should start from the moment I met my buddy.I was in a higher institution when I met a strikingly handsome guy. We met through Patience, a mutual friend who was my classmate and a soldier’s daughter. This guy introduced himself as Jay, a 2nd Lieutenant in the Nigerian army who hails from the middle belt.I thought, “Well, WHAT-E-V-E-R, he looks cool, and it’s not like we’re going to get married.” Hehehehehe…It happened three years later; we married and started our little military family.Though I was skeptical about it because I saw the military as a huge barrier to a “happily ever after,” we were already SOOOOOO in love…LOLTwo years and seven months after that, we were blessed with our first son, the second son came after another two years, and the third child, who happens to be a beautiful girl, came after another two years.She’s so pretty that she looks adorable even when she cries…Hahaha. After we had our baby girl, we decided to hang the boot and face life? A lot has happened in my life over all these years, and I love writing real-life stories; hence, I decided to have this little space on the internet.You see, eh, this military life is a roller coaster ride.

Have you ridden on one before?

Trust me; I have several times!

Military life is sometimes so hard for most military families. Every soldier’s wife has to understand and accept so much crazy stuff.

For instance:

She has to understand that she’s the second wife because the military is always the first!
She has to let go of some of her dreams because the military will make some big life decisions for her.
Sometimes, she has to put her career on a temporary or permanent stop because of all the moves (depends).
She has to be okay with talking about death, dying, and the effects.
She has to be okay with facing more drama in the barracks than she ever wished (Seniority Wahala).
She has to be okay with choosing happiness amid unfortunate circumstances.
She has to be okay with her spouse being insulted in her presence or even detained.
She has to keep her home together when her soldier is deployed for months or years, which also means she has to be okay with solo parenting.
She has to be okay with moving thousands of miles away from her family and close friends.
She has to be okay with spending as much of her marital life apart from her soldier as they do together.
She has to be okay with making and leaving friends repeatedly.
She has to be okay with living and socializing with different tribes and sometimes foreigners ( I love foreigners and learn so much from them).
She has to understand that her soldier may miss special occasions like anniversaries, birthdays, ceremonies, graduations, and childbirth ( my soldier didn’t experience any of our children’s birth, and unfortunately for him, we are done with that…Sorry, darling, you missed those precious moments).
She has to be okay with moving always. I love this part…I consider myself a TOURIST!

Being a military wife means visiting countries you would have never seen and living in different parts of your country. You would have good and bad stories about all these other places you have visited. I, for one, have met and lived with people from different backgrounds. I have lived in almost all the cities in our beloved country Nigeria and speak other languages of different places I have visited. And the best part is, I can cook and eat different dishes from different countries (do I get an award?)I have decided to embrace this Military life because I’m a super strong woman, and I’m Rocking this THANG…MY AMAZING LIFESTYLE, like a PRO!!!